In ‘The Making of Them’, Nick Duffell movingly described the way in which young children, sent away to boarding school at an early age, learn to survive by gradually disowning painful feelings related to loss and vulnerability. Research from the fields of infant development and neuroscience clearly supports the premise that young children need close and reliable contact with responsive and nurturing caregivers. So why is an elite boarding school education considered to be a privileged one, when this necessitates children being removed from the family environment so crucial for healthy emotional development? In ‘Wounded Leaders, British Elitism and the Entitlement Illusion’, Duffell extends his analysis to provide a profoundly insightful and thought provoking read for us all. “read more here: http://woundedleaders.co.uk/
Wounded Leaders: the Psychohistory of British Elitism and the Entitlement Illusion
In an age when America elected its first black president and the Middle East stirred with popular uprising, Britons were again content to elect the products of their elitist Public Schools. But, their grooming for power aside, does such an education produce excellence – or expertise in self-deception and duplicity? The early 21st Century gives us some clues. Tony Blair maintained his façade of inner conviction but lost the nation through blind allegiance to the Establishment. David Cameron let his boyish mask of caring sincerity slip to reveal a bully’s attitude beneath his meritocratic pretence. A bicycle in Downing Street highlighted a deep-seated problem in Britain: a divided society caught in the enduring trance of the Entitlement Illusion.
In this controversial essay – brimming with politics, history, psychopathlogy, neuroscience, anecdotes, passion and humour – Nick Duffell, psychotherapist, psychohistorian and author of the acclaimed The Making of Them, argues that the British national obsession with sending the children of the well-heeled away to school has a major impact on our society, our institutions and our attitudes. Tracing the development of what he calls the Rational Man Project through the colonial period, he proposes that a cherished national character ideal, eschewing vulnerability and practising a normalised covert hostility based on bullying in the dorm adversely affects even those who did not have the privilege of such an education. It leaves Britain in the social and emotional dark ages, led by “the boys in the men that run things.”
This specific culture of elitism, protected by financial interests and the “It never did me any harm” syndrome, means that Britain is unlikely to foster the kind of leadership necessary in our world of increasing complexity, which needs a communal mindset and cooperative global solutions. But worse, new scientific evidence shows that this hyper-rational training leaves its devotees trapped within the confines of an inflexible mind, beset with functional defects, presented here as the Entitled Brain.
Through the lens of the British case, the author presents readers with a perspective on the universal defects of untempered rationality and proposes a revised model of leadership more fit for the uncertain future our world faces.