Individual clients embark on counselling/therapy for a wide range of reasons. For some, it will be a life transition or ‘crisis’ that prompts them to seek support, whilst others might bring difficulties that have been part of their life for a considerable time.
Throughout our lives we develop resources and learn ways of coping with life’s ups and downs; whilst some of these coping behaviours will have served us well, others may create blocks to our ability to build relationships and lead the life we want for ourselves.
The process begins with an initial meeting which provides an opportunity for us to discuss what brings you to seek therapeutic support at this time in your life. Research evidence points to the relationship between client and therapist as being central to the process and this initial session will help you to gain a ‘sense’ of how we might work together. You may choose to go away and think about your decision before making any commitment, or you may decide you would like to agree an initial plan for further meetings. Sessions are usually at a regular time on a weekly basis but there can be some flexibility with this when necessary.
My approach is integrative, so the way I work is informed by a range of therapeutic models, depending on the needs and expectations of individual clients. Short-term counselling of up to 12 sessions will usually be structured and focussed, whilst longer ongoing therapy provides the time and space for a more gradual exploration of deeper concerns. For me, working towards achieving a sense of connection and building a trusting relationship is fundamental to any therapeutic process. It is only when a person feels valued and safe enough to allow more of themselves to become visible, that deeper understanding and personal growth can be achieved.
‘I will not live an unlived life. I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days, to allow my living to open me to make me less afraid, more accessible to loosen my heart, until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise’.