Adolescence can be a fraught time for teenagers and parents alike. In his book ‘Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain’, Neuropsychiatrist Dan siegel discusses the profound changes that are taking place in the teenage brain between the ages of 12 and 26 yrs. He describes the process of remodelling which takes place – changes which are key to developing the ability to regulate emotions, exercise wise judgement and empathise with others.
Rather than seeing the push for independence as a problem, Siegel encourages parents to adopt a more positive view and to make adjustments, keeping the bigger picture in mind. Siegel isn’t advocating permissive parenting, he argues boundaries and rules are important, but its also necessary for parents to choose their battles, regulate their own emotions and find creative ways of communicating with their teens.
Listen to Dan Siegel explain the science of adolescence and how parents can navigate their way constructively through these years: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kH-BO1rJXbQ